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Why I Still Say Neurodivergence Is a Superpower

Why I Still Say Neurodivergence Is a Superpower

by | 17, Jul 2025 | ADHD/ADD, Autism, Boundaries, Empowerment, Inspiration, Motivation, Neurodivergent, Uniqueness

Why I Still Say Neurodivergence Is a Superpower

I know not everyone likes the term “superpower” when it comes to autism, ADHD, dyslexia, or other forms of neurodivergence.

Some say it sugarcoats real challenges. Others feel it sets unfair expectations. And I hear that — truly.

But here’s why I still say it.

Because For Many, The Starting Point Is Feeling Broken

When you grow up being constantly corrected, misunderstood, or labelled as “too much” or “not enough,” you internalise the belief that there’s something wrong with you.

Many of the neurodivergent people I work with (and this includes me) spent years feeling defective. Masking, shrinking, trying to meet standards that were never designed for our brains or bodies.

So when I say “your neurodivergence is a superpower,” it’s not to deny the hard bits. It’s to disrupt the old story that we’re somehow fundamentally flawed.

The Double-Sided Coin

Neurodivergence often means living with big challenges: sensory overload, executive dysfunction, overwhelm, social burnout.

But the same brain wiring that makes us struggle can also be what makes us shine.

  • That laser focus on a passion?

  • The way patterns jump out where others see nothing?

  • The creative problem-solving, deep empathy, or fierce sense of justice?

That’s not in spite of being neurodivergent. That’s because of it.

What It Feels Like Inside

When I’m in a flow state — writing, making music, or guiding a sound session — it’s like my entire nervous system is lit up from the inside. Everything clicks. Colours feel brighter, ideas spark, connections form effortlessly.

Is it overwhelming sometimes? Yes.
Is it beautiful? Also yes.

It’s why I sometimes describe neurodivergence as having a sensitive instrument — finely tuned, sometimes fragile, but capable of picking up and creating things others might miss.

Why “Superpower” Still Matters To Me

Because it reframes. It says:

  • You’re not broken, just different.

  • Your traits are not defects, they’re part of a beautifully complex design.

  • You have capacities that are unique — and deeply needed in this world.

It’s also about hope. About planting the idea that even if school, work, or relationships have felt like relentless uphill battles, there’s still immense value in how your brain and body work.

Of Course, Challenges Are Real

Saying “it’s a superpower” doesn’t mean ignoring meltdowns, shutdowns, executive dysfunction, or the exhausting reality of living in a world not built for us.

But it does invite us to see the whole picture — including the brilliance and magic woven through our differences.

Keep Exploring With Me

I talk more about this in my video Why I Still Say It’s a Superpower (Even When Others Don’t).

If you’ve ever felt caught between “I’m struggling” and “I’m extraordinary,” this one’s for you — it’s about rewriting the old narrative of brokenness into one of worth and wonder.

You might also love:

You can find these — along with soothing sound sessions, supportive chats, and honest reflections for my neurokin — on my YouTube channel, Different… And Loving It!

You’re not less-than. You’re not too much.

Your neurodivergence holds its own kind of superpower — whether that means seeing connections others miss, feeling life intensely, or loving with your whole heart.

And that’s something worth celebrating.

10 Traits of Neurodiverse People That Are Often Not Understood

10 Traits of Neurodiverse People That Are Often Not Understood

by | 10, Jul 2025 | ADHD/ADD, Empowerment, Inspiration, Neurodivergent, Uniqueness

10 Traits of Neurodiverse People

It started over tea with a friend.

We’d barely sat down when she said, “I think my son’s brain just works differently. He remembers everything, feels so deeply, and can’t let something go if it doesn’t make sense.”

She wasn’t asking for a diagnosis—just clarity. As she shared story after story, I found myself nodding in recognition. So many of her son’s behaviours mirrored patterns I’ve seen in my work with neurodiverse kids and adults: intense focus, heightened sensitivity, and a unique way of seeing the world.

If you’ve ever felt like you or someone you love experiences life more vividly—more intensely—this list might help you understand why.

Here are 10 traits of neurodiverse people I often see in my work as a coach, sound healer, and tutor.

1. A High Level Of Self-Awareness

Many neurodiverse people have an exceptional ability to observe and articulate their inner world.

They may notice shifts in their emotional state, their energy, or how different environments affect them—often long before others do.

This can be both a gift and a burden, especially when others dismiss or misunderstand it.

2. Deep Knowledge In Special Interest Areas

When something sparks curiosity, it really sparks curiosity.

Whether it’s marine biology, animation, or vacuum cleaners, the ability to retain detail and understand complex systems runs deep.

These “deep dives” are often a source of both joy and regulation.

3. A Unique Personal Rulebook

Neurodiverse people often develop their own set of internal rules—ways the world should work.

These might seem arbitrary to others, but they provide a sense of order and safety.

Sometimes these rules apply just to them; other times, they expect those around them to follow suit, especially when fairness or logic is involved.

4. Sensory Sensitivity (And Overwhelm)

Whether it’s the low hum of a fluorescent light, the chaos of peak-hour traffic, or the sharp scent of a cleaning product, sensory input can become overwhelming.

One student of mine flapped her hands when stressed—a perfectly valid self-regulation strategy, yet misunderstood by her family. Others might rock, pace, or retreat into quiet.

These are not behaviours to “fix”—they’re important clues about regulation and overload.

5. Deep Focus And Attention To Detail

One glance, and a neurodiverse mind might absorb everything.

The crooked picture frame, the subtle shift in someone’s tone, the fact that Tuesday’s bin truck came seven minutes early.

This attention to detail can mean getting “stuck” on something small—but it also leads to precision, insight, and brilliance.

Want More?

This post accompanies my latest YouTube video, where I talk through each of these traits (and more).

If you’re curious about neurodiverse experiences, or just want to feel seen and validated, I’d love you to watch this video as I identify all 10 traits…

Understanding the traits of neurodiverse people isn’t about labelling or diagnosing—it’s about recognising differences and learning to support them.

Whether you’re a parent, teacher, or simply navigating your own identity, these insights can offer clarity and connection.

And maybe, like my friend over tea, you’ll begin to recognise that there’s nothing “wrong” at all—just a different way of being. 

One that’s worth celebrating. 🎉

Come and join the conversation
in my (free) community.

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Yellow Ladybugs Conference 2025

Yellow Ladybugs Conference 2025

by | 26, Jun 2025 | ADHD/ADD, Autism, Boundaries, Neurodivergent, PDA, RSD

Yellow Ladybugs Conference 2025

I recently had the privilege of attending the Yellow Ladybugs Conference 2025 — a space dedicated to supporting autistic girls and gender-diverse young people. It was an inspiring, heart-opening experience filled with wisdom that I’m eager to share with you. Here are some of the most powerful insights that stayed with me:

Reflections and Insights 

Neurokin: The Power of Connection Among Neurodivergent People

One beautiful concept I encountered is neurokin — yes, that word really exists!

It describes the unique connection and understanding that naturally forms between neurodivergent individuals. It’s that unspoken bond, a deep sense of being seen and understood without explanation.

Neurokin reminds us that community isn’t just nice to have — it’s vital for our wellbeing and growth.

When Escalation Happens, Step Away

A key practical reminder was about emotional escalation.

Sometimes, especially within families or close communities where neurodivergence is common, tensions can rise quickly, with everyone amplifying each other’s stress.

The advice was simple but powerful: if you find yourself escalating with someone else, it’s a clear sign to step away — physically or emotionally — to reset before reconnecting.

This pause can prevent misunderstandings and create space for compassion.

Conflicting Needs Within Neurodivergent Families

Many neurodivergent traits are shared within families, which means conflicting needs are natural and expected.

Sometimes, two or more people want different things at the same time — sensory comfort, quiet, movement, or social interaction.

The takeaway? Express your needs clearly, listen to others, and sometimes prioritise whose needs take precedence in the moment.

It’s not always easy, but communication and mutual respect help everyone feel seen and supported.

Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD): A Lifeline for Understanding

I had never heard of Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) before this conference.

Learning about RSD was deeply helpful in understanding why so many neurodivergent people can find themselves in dysfunctional or painful relationships.

RSD involves intense emotional pain triggered by perceived (or real) rejection or criticism — often disproportionate to the event itself.

Knowing about RSD can be a lifeline: it’s not “just being too sensitive,” but a neurological response that deserves compassion and tailored strategies.

PDA Is So Much More Than “Not Wanting to Be Told What to Do”

Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) came up frequently.

The common misconception is that PDA means simply “not wanting to be told what to do.”

But in reality, PDA is a complex profile that affects everyday life deeply. It involves anxiety-driven avoidance of demands, sometimes leading to creative resistance, social strategies, or emotional shutdowns.

Understanding PDA means seeing beyond behaviour to the underlying emotions and needs — which opens pathways for more supportive responses.

The Power of Lived Experience: Nothing About Us Without Us

A thread throughout the Yellow Ladybugs Conference 2025 was the importance of lived experience. 

When it comes to understanding and supporting neurodivergent people, nothing replaces the insight of those who have walked the path themselves.

Whether it’s through research, education, therapy, or everyday advocacy, the voices of neurodivergent people must be central. Lived experience brings nuance, authenticity, and clarity that no second-hand interpretation can match.

When we centre neurodivergent voices, we move closer to support that actually fits — support that respects autonomy, celebrates difference, and meets real needs with compassion.

As they often said: “Nothing about us without us.”

Energy Meter: A Brilliant Tool for Managing Your Day

One of the most practical tools shared was the Energy Meter from Autism Level Up. This tool invites you to gauge your current energy levels and consider whether your energy matches the task at hand. For example, if you’re “amped up and fidgety,” is that the right energy state for working on a focused project?

If it’s not a match, do you need to level up or level down?

What’s especially important is that you — the individual — decide where you are at and choose the energy level required for your task. Everyone expresses energy levels differently.

As they say, “If you’ve met one Autistic person, you’ve met one Autistic person.” There’s no one-size-fits-all approach. Autism Level Up offers resources to help you learn how to adjust your energy intentionally to meet your needs.

Closing Words

Attending the Yellow Ladybugs Conference 2025 reminded me how important it is to stay curious and compassionate — especially with ourselves and those we love who navigate the world differently. It also reminded me how important community is – where there is an unspoken understanding and deep respect for one another. I am already looking forward to next year’s conference.

The insights I gained are gifts I’ll carry forward, and I hope sharing them can support you too.

If you’d like to hear more about any of these topics or want resources, please reach out or comment below. Let’s keep building that beautiful neurokin community together (you can come and join Different… and Loving It! if you like!).

With warmth and deep respect,
Lucinda

Ichi-go Ichi-e

Ichi-go Ichi-e

by | 11, Jun 2025 | ADHD/ADD, Autism, Inspiration, Neurodivergent

Ichi-go Ichi-e: Being Present in Your Neurodiverse Way

Life isn’t always easy to stay present for.

Especially if you’re neurodiverse.

Sometimes everything is too much — the noise, the smells, the people, the expectations.
Sometimes it’s the opposite — we get so focused on one task, one idea, one world inside us, that we lose all track of time.

I was reading Salvatore Battaglia’s latest book, The Kotodama of Scent, when I came across a phrase that caused me to pause: Ichi-go ichi-e.


It’s a Japanese concept that literally translates to “one time, one meeting.”

A reminder that this moment, this experience — will never happen again in exactly the same way.

The phrase comes from the world of Japanese tea ceremonies, but it carries a message that ripples far beyond that:

Every moment is fleeting, and because of that, it’s precious.

Why Ichi-go Ichi-e Resonates for Neurodiverse People

I’ve spoken with so many beautiful, thoughtful, sensitive humans — many of whom are neurodiverse — who feel like they can’t stay present.

There’s too much stimulation. Or they disappear into hyperfocus. Or their brains are just… always moving.

And I want to say: You’re not doing it wrong.
Ichi-go ichi-e isn’t about forcing stillness. It’s about noticing what’s already here.

Even if your mind is racing, your environment loud, or your day disjointed — you can still pause, even for a second, to say:
 “This moment is happening now. And I’m here.”

A Moment I’ll Never Forget

When I first read the phrase, I looked up.

The light hit the page in a soft, warm way. I could smell the last traces of essential oils in the room.

And I realised: this will never happen again quite like this.

That doesn’t make it tragic — it makes it beautiful.

And it made me want to bring this idea to you.

Not as a pressure to “be present,” but as an invitation.

An offering.

A quiet reminder that now matters.

Want a Gentle Way to Reconnect?

If you’re looking for gentle tools to help you come back to the moment, I’ve created a new playlist on YouTube called Soothing Sounds.

They’re just 10-minute tracks — soft, quiet, calming — designed for when you need to pause, recover, or just breathe.

You can also watch the video version of this blog here:

Over to You…

Have you had a moment where you suddenly realised how precious it was?

Or does the idea of ichi-go ichi-e help shift something in how you approach your day?

Leave a comment below — I’d love to hear what this stirs in you.
And if you’d like more support and encouragement like this, you can subscribe to Different… and Loving It! or join our kind, off-social community.

Until next time,
 Lucinda 💙

You’re Not Too Sensitive

You’re Not Too Sensitive

by | 4, Jun 2025 | ADHD/ADD, Autism, Inspiration, Neurodivergent, Uniqueness

You’re Not Too Sensitive — You’re Wired for Deep Awareness

“You’re just too sensitive.”

Heard that before?

For many neurodiverse people—and anyone who feels deeply—this phrase lands like a judgment. It’s often said with frustration, dismissal, or even pity. 

But here’s the truth:

You’re not too sensitive.
You’re precisely sensitive enough.

Your nervous system isn’t faulty. It’s finely tuned. 

You’re wired to notice details, energy shifts, subtle sounds, tiny injustices, unexpected beauty. 

Where others might rush by, you pause. You feel. You see. And that is a profound gift.

🌿 Sensitivity ≠ Weakness

Let’s clear this up: being sensitive doesn’t mean being fragile. It means being deeply aware.

You might:

  • Sense tension in a room before anyone says a word

  • Feel overwhelmed by bright lights, strong smells, or background noise

  • Cry during music, movies, or at the sight of something beautiful

  • Need time alone to reset after socialising

  • Notice patterns, inconsistencies, or small acts of kindness that others miss

None of this means you’re broken. It means you’re in tune. In a world that rewards speed and surface-level interaction, your deep awareness is a quiet kind of power.

🌀 The Link Between Sensitivity and Neurodiversity

Many neurodiverse people—especially those with autism, ADHD, or traits linked to sensory processing—experience heightened sensitivity. 

This can show up physically (like noticing every flicker of fluorescent lighting) or emotionally (like feeling the mood of a friend before they even speak).

We’ve been taught to hide this. To mask. To “toughen up.”

But what if the world needs more feeling, not less?

🔍 What Your Sensitivity Tells You

Think of it like this: your sensitivity is feedback. It’s information. It tells you when something is off, when a space feels safe, when someone needs support. It also tells you what brings you joy, peace, comfort, and connection.

Instead of ignoring it, you can learn to listen. To trust it.

And to build a life that honours it.

💖 You Deserve Environments That Feel Kind

You don’t need to be less sensitive.

You need environments that are more aligned with how you function best.

That might mean:

  • Choosing quieter cafés

  • Wearing soft clothes in calming colours

  • Surrounding yourself with people who respect your pacing

  • Saying no to things that leave you overstimulated or emotionally drained

These choices aren’t indulgent—they’re necessary. For your nervous system, your creativity, your wellbeing.

🌸 You’re Allowed to Be Fully You

You were never meant to fit into a world that silences sensitivity.

You were meant to help shape a world that honours it.

So the next time someone says you’re too sensitive, you might pause… and smile.

Because now you know:

  • You’re not too sensitive.
  • You’re deeply aware.
  • And that’s your strength.

🎤 Share Your Thoughts

What will you say next time someone says you’re “too sensitive”? Share in the comments below – let’s inspire each other!

And if you feel inspired, come and start chatting in our Different… And Loving It! community.

Soothing Sounds for Neurodiversity

Soothing Sounds for Neurodiversity

by | 13, May 2025 | Neurodivergent, Sound Healing

Immersing in Soothing Sounds for Neurodiversity

I wanted to create a quiet place to land so I’m creating Soothing Sounds for Neurodiversity.

There’s something healing about sound when it’s offered with care.

  • The shimmer of a chime
  • The low hum of a singing bowl
  • The gentle pulse of space between tones

It’s not just sound—it’s feeling.

My Soothing Sounds video series is a quiet offering for anyone who needs somewhere soft to land. 

If the world often feels too fast, too loud, too full… these sessions are a chance to slow down, exhale, and return to your own rhythm.

Created especially for neurodiverse folks and sensitive systems, each video is a sensory-friendly sound experience. There’s no bright lights, no jarring visuals, and no talking (apart from a brief introduction and closing)—just gentle soundscapes designed to calm and comfort.

What You’ll Find

🤫 Sounds to soothe and regulate

🪷 Invitations to rest, release, or simply be

🔁 Sessions you can return to again and again

You might feel-

The vibrations in your chest.

Or a twitch in your body (that’s energy being released!).

Perhaps less heavy.

Or sense your breath softening without trying.

Maybe you feel a little more you by the end.


These aren’t performance pieces or polished soundtracks. 

They’re real, present-moment offerings recorded with care—just as I am, just as you are.

Watch on YouTube

New Soothing Sounds sessions are released every second week on my YouTube channel 🎧 @Different-andLovingIt

If you find one that feels especially good, I hope you’ll save it, revisit it, or even send it to someone who might need a little calm too.

There’s something beautiful about choosing what soothes you—and I hope these sessions can be part of that for you.

I’d also love to hear from you—what would you like to hear or experience in this series? Please share in the comments below, or let me know here.