Honouring the Needs of a Neurodiverse Person

Honouring the Needs of a Neurodiverse Person

Honouring the Needs of a Neurodiverse Person

The needs of a neurodiverse person are often different from what the world expects. Maybe you need quiet to focus when others thrive in busy spaces. Perhaps you process emotions deeply and require more time to recharge after social interactions. Or maybe you work best in bursts of creativity, rather than a rigid 9-to-5 structure.

Whatever your needs are, they are valid.

For many neurodiverse people, the challenge isn’t just recognising their needs—it’s feeling allowed to meet them. After years of masking, pushing through discomfort, or trying to meet neurotypical expectations, it can take time to learn what truly supports your wellbeing.

Listening to Your Body’s Signals

Your body is always communicating with you. Signs that something isn’t working might include:

Overwhelm & Sensory Overload – A buzzing head, tight shoulders, or a sudden need to escape a noisy space.

Emotional Drain – Feeling irritable, exhausted, or disconnected after certain interactions or tasks.

Meltdowns or Shutdowns – When everything feels too much, leading to either explosive frustration or complete withdrawal.

Instead of pushing through, pause. What is your body telling you? What small shifts could help?

Ways to Honour Your Needs

Adjust Your Environment – Noise-cancelling headphones, dim lighting, or a quiet workspace can make a world of difference.

Respect Your Energy Levels – If back-to-back activities drain you, schedule breaks. If social events are overwhelming, give yourself permission to say no.

Embrace Your Natural Rhythms – Work with your focus patterns, whether that means deep-diving into passion projects or taking movement breaks to stay engaged.

Give Yourself Permission to Stim – Fidgeting, rocking, or other self-soothing movements aren’t bad habits—they’re ways your body regulates itself.

Set Clear Boundaries – If certain environments, tasks, or social expectations exhaust you, it’s okay to set limits and advocate for what you need.

You Deserve Support

The world isn’t always designed for neurodiverse needs, but that doesn’t mean you have to fight against yourself to fit in. The more you honour your needs, the more you can build a life that feels right for you.

If this resonates, take a moment today to ask yourself: What do I need right now? And then—whenever possible—give yourself permission to meet that need.

Because you deserve to thrive just as you are.

Strengths and Challenges of Being Neurodiverse

Strengths and Challenges of Being Neurodiverse

Strengths and Challenges of Being Neurodiverse

Being neurodiverse means experiencing the world in a way that is rich, vivid, and often different from the norm. Maybe your thoughts move at lightning speed, or you notice details others overlook. Perhaps you feel emotions deeply, or your senses absorb the world in an intense and sometimes overwhelming way.

If you’ve ever felt like you don’t quite fit into the structures around you, that’s not because there’s something wrong with you. It’s because the world wasn’t built with neurodiversity in mind.

But your way of thinking, feeling, and processing is valid—and it comes with both incredible strengths and unique challenges.

The Gifts of Being Neurodiverse

Neurodiverse people often bring extraordinary talents and perspectives to the world. Here are some common strengths:

🔬 Deep Focus & Passion – When something captures your interest, you can dive into it with incredible depth, mastering details that others might skim over.

🌟 Creativity & Innovation – Thinking outside the box comes naturally. Your mind makes unexpected connections, leading to fresh ideas and unique problem-solving skills.

🪶 Pattern Recognition – Whether it’s spotting visual details, understanding complex systems, or noticing shifts in social dynamics, you see things that others miss.

🐘 Resilience & Adaptability – Many neurodiverse people have spent years navigating a world that doesn’t always accommodate them, which often builds strength and resourcefulness.

💛 Empathy & Sensitivity – A deep awareness of emotions—your own and others’—can make you an incredibly compassionate and insightful person.

But while being neurodiverse comes with strengths, it also comes with challenges, especially in environments that don’t support neurodivergent needs.

The Challenges of Being Neurodiverse

Many neurodiverse people face difficulties that can be exhausting, frustrating, or isolating. These can include:

Sensory Overload – Noises, lights, textures, or crowded spaces can be overwhelming, making daily life more draining.

Executive Function Struggles – Organising, prioritising, and starting or finishing tasks can be difficult, even for things you want to do.

Social Fatigue & Masking – Navigating social norms, reading between the lines, and forcing yourself to “fit in” can be exhausting and lead to burnout.

Emotional Intensity – Feeling things deeply can be both a gift and a challenge, as emotions can sometimes become overwhelming.

Misunderstanding & Stigma – The world often expects people to think and behave in certain ways, which can lead to neurodiverse individuals feeling unseen or unsupported, even alien.

You Are Not Alone

If you’ve ever felt like your struggles are invisible or that your strengths go unrecognised, know this: you are not alone, and your experiences matter.

Understanding the gifts and challenges of being neurodiverse is the first step to embracing who you are. In the final part of this series, we’ll explore how to honour your needs, set boundaries, and create a life that works for you.

What Does It Mean to Be Neurodiverse?

What Does It Mean to Be Neurodiverse?

What Does It Mean to Be Neurodiverse?

Ever wondered if you are neurodiverse? Let’s explore neurodiversity.

Have you ever felt like the world was moving at a different rhythm than you? Maybe bright lights feel too bright, noises seem too loud, or social interactions leave you utterly drained when others seem energised. Perhaps your mind moves faster than your mouth can keep up—or latches onto deep interests with an intensity others don’t seem to understand.

If any of this resonates, you might be neurodiverse.

What Does ‘Neurodiverse’ Mean?

The word neurodiverse describes the natural variations in how people think, feel, and experience the world. While society tends to prioritise certain ways of thinking—often called neurotypical—many people’s brains are wired differently. This includes those who are autistic, have ADHD, dyslexia, sensory processing differences, or other cognitive variations.

But neurodiversity isn’t only about diagnoses. If you’ve ever felt like the world was too loud, too fast, or too rigid for the way you function, you might relate to being neurodiverse. Many introverts, for example, process the world deeply and need extra downtime to recharge, which overlaps with some neurodivergent experiences. Whether you’ve always struggled with bright lights and noise, found social interactions draining, or needed unconventional ways to stay focused, your experience is valid.

Neurodiversity is a spectrum, and every person’s experience is unique. The key is recognising and embracing the way you function best.

Noticing the Signs

For some, the signs of being neurodiverse have always been obvious. Others may have spent years feeling off without quite knowing why.

Do any of these sound familiar?
✨ You notice patterns and details others miss.
✨ You feel drained by social interactions, even if you enjoy them.
✨ You have a rich inner world and love deep dives into your favourite topics.
✨ You experience sensory input more intensely—certain fabrics, sounds, or lights feel unbearable.
✨ You have bursts of creativity and energy but struggle with structure or routine.

If you recognise yourself in these experiences, you’re not alone. Many neurodiverse people go undiagnosed for years, especially if they’ve learned to mask their differences. But understanding why you experience the world differently can be incredibly freeing.

You Are Not Broken

Being neurodiverse doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you—it means your brain is wired uniquely. The world may not always be designed with neurodiverse minds in mind, but that doesn’t mean your way of thinking is any less valid.

In the next post in this series, we’ll explore the incredible strengths of being neurodiverse—as well as some of the challenges that come with it. But for now, take a deep breath and know this: you are not alone, and your experiences make sense.

Managing Your Energy

Managing Your Energy

Managing Your Energy – Making Intentional Choices About Where to Spend It

In today’s fast-paced world, it’s easy to forget that our energy is a finite resource. Unlike time, which ticks on regardless, our energy ebbs and flows. 

Life can throw us all over the place, like being onboard a ship in rough seas. But, when we’re intentional about where we spend it, we feel more balanced, fulfilled, and focused on what truly matters. 

But for many, especially those of us who are neurodiverse, this process is more complex. We’re constantly picking up on extra information around us, which can be both enriching and exhausting.

Recognising Your Energy “Bank”

Think of your energy like a bank account. Just as you might budget your finances, it’s essential to budget your energy. 

Each interaction, task, and even environment has an “energy cost,” which can differ for everyone. 

When we become aware of what drains us and what replenishes us, we can make intentional choices about where to invest our energy.

Here are some helpful questions to start with – you might like to journal on these.

  • What activities or people make me feel energised? Whether it’s engaging in a hobby, talking with certain friends, or spending time outdoors, recognising these energisers can help you build them more consistently into your routine.
  • What drains my energy most? Pay attention to situations or interactions that leave you feeling depleted, and consider if you can minimise or balance them.
  • How does my energy feel throughout the day? Noticing when your energy rises and dips can help you to structure your day in a way that makes the best use of your natural rhythms.

Tips for Managing Your Energy

Once you know what affects your energy levels, you can make small adjustments so that you are intentionally protecting and managing it. 

Here are a few techniques that work especially well for neurodiverse individuals:

  1. Set Boundaries to Avoid Information Overload
    News, social media, and even the everyday bustle of public spaces can be overwhelming. Give yourself permission to step back from sources of overstimulation and create small “retreats” of quiet whenever possible.
  2. Practice Grounding Techniques
    Grounding exercises like deep breathing, short meditations, or even sound healing can help recalibrate your mind and body. These moments bring you back to the present and help you recharge quickly.
  3. Embrace a ‘Less is More’ Mentality
    Instead of filling your day with endless to-dos, focus on two or three things that are most important to you. By reducing decision fatigue and honing in on priorities, you’ll conserve mental and emotional energy.
  4. Recharge with Nature
    Spending time outdoors or even just taking a few minutes to breathe fresh air can help clear your mind and replenish your reserves. Whether it’s a walk in the garden or a full day in nature, connecting with the Earth is an incredibly restorative experience.
  5. Use Intentional Rest Periods
    Rather than waiting until you’re exhausted to take a break, try planning intentional rest periods throughout your day. Even five minutes to stretch or close your eyes can make a world of difference.
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Energy is precious, and learning to manage it wisely allows us to live with greater joy, intention, and connection.

By prioritising your own wellbeing, you’ll not only feel more grounded but also have more to give to the things and people that matter most.

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Finish the Year Strong: Tuning into What You Really Need

Finish the Year Strong: Tuning into What You Really Need

How To Finish The Year Strong

As the final quarter of the year unfolds, many of us find ourselves swept up in the whirlwind of social commitments, work deadlines, and festive preparations. It’s often called the “silly season” for a reason!

There’s pressure to show up everywhere, say yes to every event, and push ourselves to meet the demands of the season. But amid all this activity, have you ever stopped to ask yourself what you really need?

As we begin this final quarter, pause and spend some time in reflection and renewal. Instead of rushing through the next few months, take this opportunity to slow down and check in with yourself.

What if you could finish the year strong, instead of exhausting your reserves, if you could manage your energy in a way that truly supports your wellbeing?

This is where some deep self-inquiry comes in. Journalling is a powerful tool to help you connect with your inner wisdom and bring clarity to what’s most important for you.

Below are a few prompts to help guide you in this process. I encourage you to set aside some quiet time, get comfortable, and write freely in response to these questions. Let them help you tune into your own needs as the year draws to a close.

7 Journal Prompts to Finish the Year Strong

1. At a really deep level, what do I need?

This question invites you to bypass the surface-level ‘to-dos’ and look deeper into what your mind, body, and soul are asking for. Whether it’s more rest, a stronger sense of connection, or time alone to recharge, allow yourself to listen to your inner voice.

2. What commitments truly align with my values, and which ones drain my energy?

Not all activities bring equal satisfaction. Consider which events or tasks light you up and align with what matters most to you, versus those that feel obligatory or depleting.

3. How can I create boundaries that protect my energy during the busiest times?

We can’t say yes to everything. Reflect on where you might need to establish or reinforce boundaries to ensure you’re not overextending yourself.

4. What is one thing I can let go of that no longer serves me?

The end of the year is a great time to release what feels heavy or unnecessary, whether that’s an old habit, a commitment, or an emotional burden.

5. How can I incorporate moments of stillness or self-care into my daily routine?

During chaotic times, small practices of self-care can make all the difference. Explore how you can introduce or enhance moments of mindfulness, relaxation, or reflection to nourish yourself through the end of the year.

6. Who do I want to be at the start of the new year, and how can I embody that now?

Visualise the person you wish to become as the new year begins. What actions, mindset shifts, or choices can you make now that will help you align with that version of yourself?

7. What would it feel like to close the year with peace rather than pressure?

Imagine ending the year feeling peaceful and content rather than stressed and overwhelmed. How can you structure your time and energy to create that sense of ease as the year wraps up?

Some Final Words

As we approach the busiest time of the year, it’s essential to pause and reflect on what truly matters. These prompts are designed to help you connect with your deepest needs and find a sense of calm amid the chaos.

The goal isn’t to “get through” the end of the year but to finish strong – grounded, energised, and aligned with your authentic self.

Take a moment for yourself today, and start asking these important questions. You’re worth it!

Embrace Your Inner Strength

Embrace Your Inner Strength

Embracing Your Inner Strength

Hey there! Today I want to explore ways to embrace your inner strength. Let’s dive in.

 

Have you ever felt like you’re floating downstream, carried along by the currents of life without much say in the matter? 

It’s a common feeling, one that often leaves us feeling powerless and adrift. But here’s the thing – you have more power than you realise. 

It’s time to reclaim it and step into your true strength.

With many clients that I’ve worked with over the years, there are times that they’ve felt completely overwhelmed and like life is out of their control. I’ve experienced this too. 

For my client Joe, it seemed like no matter what he did, he couldn’t catch a break, and he started to lose sight of who he truly was. When he relayed this in-session, he realised that he had been giving away his power – allowing external circumstances to dictate his happiness and sense of self-worth.

It’s Time To Stop Giving Away Your Power

Let’s start by defining it.

What does it mean to “give your power away”? 

Simply put, it’s when we allow outside influences to control how we think, feel, and act. Whether it’s seeking validation from others, comparing ourselves to unrealistic standards, or allowing fear to hold us back – 

Giving away our power diminishes our sense of agency and autonomy.

We do this in many ways – and one of the most common ways is asking everybody for their advice. Another way is scrolling through social media and letting comparisons get the better of us. This can also see “imposter syndrome” creep in.

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There is a way out of this cycle. 

The first step is recognising when we’re falling into the trap of giving away our power. 

How? I hear you ask.

Pause and pay attention to how you feel in different situations.

  • Is there a sense of feeling empowered and in control?
  • Do you feel helpless and overwhelmed? 

By tuning into our emotions and our bodies (even if it is just the flutter of a sensation from within), we can begin to identify patterns of behaviour that are holding us back.

If you aren’t sure what you are feeling, I invite you to tune into the sensations of expansion and contraction.

Here’s a quick exercise to help build this awareness –

Sit quietly. Take a few slow breaths. Place your hands on your heart to bring your attention to this area. Now bring to mind a situation or scenario. Notice if your heart feels expansive (opening, getting bigger, warm are some sensations you might feel) or is it contracting (tightening, getting smaller, making you curl over)?

Repeat this exercise with other scenarios.

The more you do it, the quicker it will  be for you to identify whether you are feeling empowered or overwhelmed.

The Power Within

My question for you is: Do you believe that you have control over the events in your life?

The extent that you feel you can shape your own life is referred to as your “locus of control” (a concept developed by Rotter in 1954).

Those with an internal locus of control believe they have the power to influence their circumstances.

While those with an external locus of control believe that external forces determine their fate.

If you believe that you have some “control” over what happens in your life, you may be more motivated to go for what you want, rather than sit back and wait to see what lands in your lap.

I see there is a blend of empowerment and courage within an internal locus of control because it requires you to reach for what you want and be proactive in your life.

 

So, how can we reclaim our power? 

It starts with cultivating a sense of inner calm so that we can become aware of our inner wisdom – that deep, intuitive knowing that guides us on our journey. 

Practices like sound healing and life coaching can be powerful tools for connecting with this inner wisdom, helping us tap into our innate strength and resilience.

Cultivating Your Inner Strength

Here are some practices which I’ve found particularly helpful (for myself and my clients) – what I call a “Humming Meditation” and “Aware Breaths.”

Humming Meditation

Sit quietly and soften your gaze.

Take a few deep slow breaths in and out.

Begin to hum – at whatever volume and pitch that you like. Hum for a few minutes – you could start with 2 minutes and build up to 8-10 minutes.

While you are humming, become aware of where in your body you are feeling it. Are your lips buzzing? Or perhaps you can feel it in your chest? Or your throat? Or somewhere else?

When you finish humming, sit in the quietness and notice where in your body you are feeling the remnant vibrations.

Aware Breaths 

If you are out and about, or even at work, you can snatch a few moments to breathe with awareness – I call them “Aware Breaths.”

All you need to do is just slowly inhale to a count of 4. Pause. Then slowly exhale to a count of 6. Pause. Repeat.

It is great to do this for 3+ breaths, but even one can make the world of difference. 

It is truly amazing how quickly Aware Breaths can shift how you feel.

Reminder

Remember, you are the author of your own story, and you have the power to create the life you desire.

I encourage you to embrace your inner strength and reclaim your power. 

Trust your intuition, listen to your heart, and know that you are capable of achieving anything you set your mind to. 

Shine bright and never forget the incredible power that resides within you.

 

In love and light,

Lucinda