You’re Not Too Sensitive

by Lucinda | 4, Jun 2025 | ADHD/ADD, Autism, Inspiration, Neurodivergent, Uniqueness

You’re Not Too Sensitive — You’re Wired for Deep Awareness

“You’re just too sensitive.”

Heard that before?

For many neurodiverse people—and anyone who feels deeply—this phrase lands like a judgment. It’s often said with frustration, dismissal, or even pity.

But here’s the truth:

You’re not too sensitive.
You’re precisely sensitive enough.

Your nervous system isn’t faulty. It’s finely tuned.

You’re wired to notice details, energy shifts, subtle sounds, tiny injustices, unexpected beauty.

Where others might rush by, you pause. You feel. You see. And that is a profound gift.

🌿 Sensitivity ≠ Weakness

Let’s clear this up: being sensitive doesn’t mean being fragile. It means being deeply aware.

You might:

Sense tension in a room before anyone says a word
Feel overwhelmed by bright lights, strong smells, or background noise
Cry during music, movies, or at the sight of something beautiful
Need time alone to reset after socialising
Notice patterns, inconsistencies, or small acts of kindness that others miss

None of this means you’re broken. It means you’re in tune. In a world that rewards speed and surface-level interaction, your deep awareness is a quiet kind of power.

🌀 The Link Between Sensitivity and Neurodiversity

Many neurodiverse people—especially those with autism, ADHD, or traits linked to sensory processing—experience heightened sensitivity.

This can show up physically (like noticing every flicker of fluorescent lighting) or emotionally (like feeling the mood of a friend before they even speak).

We’ve been taught to hide this. To mask. To “toughen up.”

But what if the world needs more feeling, not less?

🔍 What Your Sensitivity Tells You

Think of it like this: your sensitivity is feedback. It’s information. It tells you when something is off, when a space feels safe, when someone needs support. It also tells you what brings you joy, peace, comfort, and connection.

Instead of ignoring it, you can learn to listen. To trust it.

And to build a life that honours it.

💖 You Deserve Environments That Feel Kind

You don’t need to be less sensitive.

You need environments that are more aligned with how you function best.

That might mean:

Choosing quieter cafés
Wearing soft clothes in calming colours
Surrounding yourself with people who respect your pacing
Saying no to things that leave you overstimulated or emotionally drained

These choices aren’t indulgent—they’re necessary. For your nervous system, your creativity, your wellbeing.

🌸 You’re Allowed to Be Fully You

You were never meant to fit into a world that silences sensitivity.

You were meant to help shape a world that honours it.

So the next time someone says you’re too sensitive, you might pause… and smile.

Because now you know:

You’re not too sensitive.
You’re deeply aware.
And that’s your strength.

🎤 Share Your Thoughts

What will you say next time someone says you’re “too sensitive”? Share in the comments below – let’s inspire each other!

And if you feel inspired, come and start chatting in our Different… And Loving It! community.

Late-Identified Neurodiversity – Rediscovering Myself

by Lucinda | 2, May 2025 | Autism, Boundaries, Masking, Meltdowns, Neurodivergent

Late-Identified Neurodiversity = Internal University

Figuring out that I’m neurodiverse in my mid-50s certainly qualifies as late-identified neurodiversity!

I’ve always known — and embraced — that I’m different. But it’s only recently that I’ve begun to understand the full scope of my neurodiversity. I may be neurodiverse in multiple ways.

I’ve always known I was an introvert, and that felt like part of my neurodiversity. But discovering that I’m also autistic?

That part is new.

Looking Back Through a Neurodiverse Lens

With the insight I’m gaining now, I can see autism running through my life like a thread — sometimes fine and golden, sometimes tangled.

As a child, I loved solitude. I’d read science books and do experiments, learn to knit and crochet from crafting guides, and explore the vivid, layered world inside me.

When I did venture out, I saw things that weren’t right. Even at 7 or 8, I was campaigning to protect animals and the environment — creating petitions, going door to door to collect signatures, and sending them to the government.

I also had what my parents called “tantrums” — which meant being sent to my room (blessed solitude!). Now I understand these were likely meltdowns. The world overwhelmed me, and there was little awareness of autism back then.

Interestingly, my dad self-diagnosed as “mildly autistic.” It never quite landed with me — but he made me feel normal in a way no one else did.

Masking… and the Cost

Masking is the art of hiding your neurodiverse traits to fit into the neurotypical world.

Given I’ve gotten this far in life with only about four people recognising I might be neurodiverse – I’m pretty good at it!

My mission now is to gently unpick the mask — to understand when and how I mask, and most importantly, the toll it takes on my energy.

But because masking has become so automatic, it’s difficult to spot.

One video on YouTube helped illuminate this for me — I’ll share it below. I’ve watched it several times, laughing out loud at how deeply I relate.

(Especially the “watching the movie” scene… oh my stars — that is so me. It’s probably why I adore The Detectorists.)

Watch it here:

What’s Beneath the Mask?

I’m still discovering that part.

I’ve taken a short pause from life — a reset — to tune into my own rhythms. I’m learning what I truly need, and what my limits are.

Here’s what I’ve uncovered so far:

🕊️ Making time for myself early in the day
🐶 More puppy time (play and cuddles!)
🌪️ Limiting time in environments that are intense or draining
🗓️ Structuring my days to reflect my needs — which are still evolving
🚫 Saying firm no’s to what feels soul-sapping
🌿 Spending more time in nature — restoring myself, and watching satin bowerbirds build their bowers
🍲 Eating in ways that support my body
💫 Welcoming in more of what I love

This journey of late-identified neurodiversity is not about labelling. It’s about liberation. About finally seeing myself with clarity, compassion, and care.

And maybe, just maybe, letting that mask fall away — one kind choice at a time.

Have you ever experienced a moment of self-discovery that changed the way you see your past?

I’d love to hear what helped you make sense of your difference — whether recently, or long ago.

Please feel welcome to share in the comments, or just sit with the question gently and see what it stirs.

How to Stop Feeling Broken

by Lucinda | 17, Apr 2025 | ADHD/ADD, Autism, Boundaries, Neurodivergent, Uniqueness

How to Stop Feeling Broken – You’re Just Different

Have you ever had that sinking feeling that you’re not quite right? That somehow, you missed a memo on how to “human” correctly?

Maybe you’ve been told you’re too sensitive, too intense, too quiet, too loud, too much—or not enough.

That feeling of not fitting in can be overwhelming. It can convince you that you’re somehow broken.

But here’s the truth: You are not broken. You’re just different.

And different is NOT a flaw.

What Feeling Broken Really Means

That “feeling broken” sensation often comes from years of internalising messages that something about you needs fixing.

For many neurodiverse people, that message starts early: at school, in social groups, in work environments built for a different kind of brain.

Feeling broken isn’t really about who you are. It’s about how you’ve been made to feel.

When the world isn’t designed with your way of thinking, feeling, or sensing in mind, it can wear you down.

But your differences – your sensitivities, your focus, your perspective – aren’t errors. They’re signals of a mind that works uniquely.

Reframing “Broken” as “Brilliant”

Let’s flip the narrative.

What if those things that make you feel broken are actually signs of brilliance?

🌱 Struggle in noisy environments? That might mean you have finely tuned sensory awareness.
💡 Need time alone to recharge? You may process deeply and feel more than others.
✨ Communicate differently? That’s not a flaw—it’s another form of fluency.

The world needs all kinds of thinkers, feelers, and beings. Your uniqueness might just be the perspective someone else is longing to hear.

How to Start Healing That Feeling

If you’re stuck in the cycle of feeling broken, here are a few gentle steps to help shift that story:

Notice the narrative
Pay attention to the inner voice that says, “I’m too much” or “I don’t belong.”
Whose voice is that? Often, it’s not yours.
Seek spaces that celebrate difference
When you find places—online or in real life—where people get you, it’s like a deep exhale. Community matters.
Speak kindly to yourself
Start small: “I am doing my best.” “There’s nothing wrong with me.”
Let those words begin to soften the edges.
Recognise your strengths
Make a list of what you do well—not just achievements, but traits: creativity, compassion, pattern recognition, perseverance.
Start to celebrate you.
Get support
Whether it’s a coach, therapist, mentor or trusted friend –
Being seen and heard by someone who understands can be powerful.

You Are Not Broken—You Are Becoming

If no one has told you lately: there is nothing wrong with you.

Yes, the world can be confusing, harsh, and overwhelming. But you? You are still whole.

You’re allowed to feel tired. You’re allowed to feel lost. And you’re allowed to rest.

But please don’t mistake being different for being broken.

Because in your difference lies your depth, your strength, and your quiet brilliance.

Share your thoughts in the comments. I’d love to hear your reactions, thoughts and feelings.

Hyperfocus: The Joy (and Challenge) of Deep Dives

by Lucinda | 17, Mar 2025 | ADHD/ADD, Autism, Empowerment, Hyperfocus, Neurodivergent

Hyperfocus: The Joy (and Challenge) of Deep Dives

I was catching up with a friend over coffee when she sighed, shaking her head with a wry smile.

“I just don’t get it. I sat down to do a quick bit of research for my project, and before I knew it, six hours had passed! I forgot to eat, I ignored my phone—nothing else existed. It’s like I disappeared into another world. Is that normal?”

A familiar spark of recognition lit up in me. “That sounds perfectly normal to me!! It’s called ‘hyperfocus’!” I said.

If you’ve ever lost yourself in an absorbing task—emerging hours later, dazed and completely unaware of the time—you might have experienced hyperfocus, too.

It’s the intense, immersive state where distractions fade away, and your entire being locks onto one fascinating thing.

Whether it’s reading, gaming, creating, or problem-solving, hyperfocus can feel like a superpower—until it’s not.

What is Hyperfocus?

It is a state of deep concentration where a person becomes completely absorbed in an activity, often to the exclusion of everything else.

It’s most commonly associated with neurodiverse individuals, particularly those with ADHD and autism, but anyone can experience it.

Unlike general concentration, which can be consciously controlled, hyperfocus often feels involuntary.

It’s not just paying attention—it’s disappearing into something, sometimes to the point of neglecting basic needs like eating, sleeping, or responding to others.

The Double-Edged Sword

Hyperfocus can be a gift.

It allows for deep learning, creativity, and productivity.

Many breakthroughs in science, art, and technology have likely come from someone deeply immersed in their work.

But it also has its downsides.

If the focus locks onto the ‘wrong’ thing (a video game instead of an important deadline, or a creative project instead of much-needed sleep), it can cause frustration, stress, or even burnout.

It can also make it difficult to switch tasks, leading to missed appointments, unfinished chores, and an imbalance in daily life.

Monotropism: The Science Behind Hyperfocus

A key concept linked to hyperfocus is monotropism – the idea that some brains naturally focus on fewer things at a deeper level, rather than spreading attention broadly.

This explains why shifting attention can be difficult and why deep dives into interests are so rewarding.

For those with a monotropic attention style, engaging in a passion feels energising and fulfilling, but being forced to multitask or switch focus can be exhausting.

Understanding this can help people manage their focus more effectively, rather than fighting against it.

Managing Hyperfocus: Harnessing the Magic

If this is something you experience, here are a few ways to work with it rather than against it:

1️⃣ Set External Reminders – Alarms, timers, and accountability check-ins can help break up long focus sessions so you remember to eat, drink, and rest.

2️⃣ Plan ‘Deep Work’ Time – If you know you hyperfocus best in the evenings, schedule important tasks for then, instead of forcing yourself into less optimal times.

3️⃣ Create Soft Exit Strategies – Transitioning out of hyperfocus can be difficult. Using a wind-down routine, like journaling your progress or setting a stopping point in advance, can make it easier.

4️⃣ Use It to Your Advantage – When channelled well, hyperfocus can be an incredible asset for work, hobbies, and personal growth. Understanding your own patterns helps you make the most of it.

5️⃣ Build Recovery Time – Hyperfocus can be exhilarating but also exhausting. Plan for rest, movement, and downtime after deep dives to prevent burnout and keep your focus sustainable.

Embracing Your Focus Pocus

I’ve always called hyperfocus my “Focus Pocus”—that magical ability to get completely absorbed in something I love.

Learning to embrace and manage it has helped me balance its benefits while avoiding its pitfalls.

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If you or someone you know experiences hyperfocus, it’s worth recognising its power and finding ways to make it work in your favour.

What’s the last thing you got lost in for hours? Let’s celebrate the deep dives together!

Share in the comments, or come over and share in our free community: Different… and Loving it!

Sounds for Autism, Anxiety & Fear

by Lucinda | 12, Mar 2025 | Anxiety, Autism, Sound Healing

Sounds for Autism, Anxiety & Fear

How Sound Helps Calm the Nervous System

Ever felt completely overstimulated, like every sound, light, or social interaction is just too much?

Whether it’s anxiety, sensory overload, or shutdowns, there’s one natural tool that can help: sound.

From humming and singing to deep vibrations and music, sound can directly activate the vagus nerve, our body’s built-in relaxation switch.

This means it can help reduce stress, prevent meltdowns, and bring a sense of calm—all in a way that’s backed by science.

Let’s explore how it works and how you can use sound to support your nervous system.

The Vagus Nerve: Your Body’s Relaxation Switch

The vagus nerve runs from your brainstem down through your body, connecting with your heart, lungs, and gut.

It’s a key part of the parasympathetic nervous system, which helps you rest, digest, and recover.

Unlike the fight-or-flight response, which ramps up anxiety and stress, the vagus nerve brings everything back to a state of calm.

💙 It slows the heart rate
🔷 Regulates breathing
💙 Reduces inflammation
🔷 Supports emotional regulation

And the best part? Sound is one of the easiest ways to activate it.

(Read more about the vagus nerve.)

How Sound Stimulates the Vagus Nerve

Research has found that certain sounds and vibrations can directly engage the vagus nerve, helping to regulate emotions and reduce stress.

🎶 1. Humming & Singing

The vibration of your voice stimulates the vagus nerve, sending calming signals through your body. (Check out my #1 Humming Technique here.)

Studies have shown that group singing even increases heart rate variability—a sign of a well-regulated nervous system. (Maybe it’s time to join a choir?)

💧 2. Gargling

Dr Carlo Rinaudo, a chiropractor, explains that gargling is a powerful vagus nerve exercise.

The muscles at the back of the throat engage, stimulating vagal tone—the measure of how well your nervous system regulates stress.

🎵 3. Listening to Music

Certain types of music, particularly those that create a sense of awe or deep relaxation, have been linked to increased vagus nerve activity and lower anxiety levels.

🔔 4. Sound Healing & Vibrational Therapy

Low-frequency sounds, Tibetan bowls, and tuning forks create deep resonance in the body, supporting relaxation and emotional balance.

Research suggests these types of sound therapy can reduce stress and even improve focus.

Why This Matters for Autism, Anxiety & Fear

For many neurodiverse people, sensory overload, anxiety, and emotional overwhelm are part of daily life.

Learning to regulate your nervous system through sound can be a game-changer.

💙 Helps prevent meltdowns & shutdowns

🔷 Reduces stress and sensory overwhelm

💙 Supports emotional regulation & focus

🔷 Provides a simple, natural way to find calm

The beauty of sound is that it’s always available—whether you hum, listen to music, or even gargle!

Try It for Yourself

Now, I’d love to hear from you!

💬 What sounds help you feel calm and regulated? Share your experience in the comments.

🎧 Want to explore sound healing? Join me in a sound journey! LucindaCurran.com

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Understanding Autistic Shutdowns

by Lucinda | 28, Feb 2025 | Autism, Neurodivergent, Shutdowns

Understanding Autistic Shutdowns: What Happens When Overwhelm Takes Over?

What is an Autistic Shutdown?

An autistic shutdown is a response to extreme overwhelm, where the nervous system essentially “powers down” to protect itself.

Unlike meltdowns, which are outward expressions of distress, shutdowns involve withdrawal, silence, and exhaustion.

The brain and body go into a low-energy state, making it difficult to think, speak, or respond to stimuli.

Understanding autistic shutdowns is essential for recognising when they happen and responding with self-compassion.

Common Triggers for Shutdowns

Autistic shutdowns are often triggered by prolonged stress, overstimulation, or emotional overload. Some common causes include:

Sensory Overload: Loud noises, bright lights, strong smells, or crowded spaces can overwhelm the senses.
Social Exhaustion: Too many interactions, deep emotional conversations, or feeling misunderstood.
Emotional Stress: Conflict, unexpected changes, or being confronted with intense emotions from others.
Cognitive Overload: Too many decisions, rapid-fire information, or complex problem-solving.
Physical Fatigue: Lack of sleep, too many back-to-back activities, or not enough downtime.

Signs of an Autistic Shutdown

Because shutdowns are often internal experiences, they can be difficult to spot. Here are some signs:

Becoming non-verbal or struggling to form words.
Feeling disconnected, distant, or numb.
Needing to withdraw from people or tasks.
Struggling to process information or make decisions.
Feeling physically drained or dizzy.

For those who experience shutdowns, recognising these signs early can help prevent deeper exhaustion.

How to Recover from a Shutdown

Once a shutdown begins, the best approach is to allow yourself time and space to recover. Here are some ways to help the process:

Create a calm environment – Reduce sensory input by dimming lights, wearing noise-cancelling headphones, or retreating to a quiet space.
Engage in soothing activities – Stimming, listening to music, wrapping up in a weighted blanket, or sitting in nature can help.
Prioritise rest – Allow yourself to step away from responsibilities and recharge.
Communicate your needs – If possible, let others know you need space and quiet.
Hydrate and nourish your body – Simple self-care actions like drinking water and eating a small snack can support recovery.

How Others Can Support Someone in Shutdown

If you know someone experiencing a shutdown, here are a few ways to support them:

Respect their need for space and quiet.
Avoid asking too many questions or expecting immediate responses.
Offer practical help, like bringing them water or a comfort item.
Be patient and understanding—it’s not personal.
Check in later, once they’ve had time to recover.

Final Thoughts

Shutdowns are a natural response to overwhelm, not a sign of weakness or failure. Recognising them, allowing recovery time, and building strategies to manage energy levels can make a world of difference.

Have you ever experienced an autistic shutdown? What helps you recover? Share your thoughts in the comments—I’d love to hear from you!